Hoo boy...

This dating thing is tricky!

I had an amazing dinner date with Matchman & our date did lead into a confusing/miscommunication night of fire, wine, cake and some serious kissy face. I left before it got out of hand and have learned a couple of things:
1. my rational thinking is stronger than my libdo
2. no more home based dates until I feel super comfortable- it can be dangerous and it gives the wrong impresion.

After our date, matchman called the next day to apologize somewhat - he first asked me to come over his place after work, so there was a small attempt again. (i said no)  I haven't seen him since, but we have had some great conversations & cute texts.  He has been very complimentary to me & attentive.  We haven't gone a day without some form of communication. 

After our date I was thinking that this person won't be "the one" & the jury is still out, but I like him so I don't want to judge too quickly.  This COULD be just a miscommunication or a serious deal break...as he likes to get freaky with it.  We shall see soon enough.

Meanwhile, last night was the infamous Speed Dating!!!

The age range was 35-55 & the group was definitely a bit older for me.  I had fun & was in it to be charming to all the men I met. When you get there, the women get to pick where they would like to sit & each person is given a card with a picture on it.  You are suppose to find your picture match & begin with that guy.  I was talking to my "pic match" for 15 minutes before we started.  He was nice but has 3 small kids (eek in a bad way) Plus he made a small sour face when I asked if he wanted more & said maybe. Yeah..maybe NOT.

Kind of cool knowing that I just went on 15 dates.  Look at me - I'm a dating fiend!  Out of the 15, I think I grooved with 3 people - there were some misfits, like the guy who said that his Mother made him sign up cuz he needs a girlfriend or the one with coke bottle glasses who looked like Dilbert & spoke like the guy from Office Space. (I want my stapler)

I have a mini-date with matchman tonight &  I know more if he is still in the running - I have butterflys!

Happy Times!

Hello Happy Readers ~


It's been a busy few weeks!  First off, I have successfully turned 40!  What an amazing experience...I felt so loved by so many people & the celebration isn't over, either.  I am heading to NYC to spend time with my Brother, who's Birthday was 1/23 and my cousin, BF who's birthday is this Saturday 2/5. 

Aquarius Power!!!


For this birthday, I experienced:
* an amazing musical, Mamma Mia and a yummy dinner with AR
* fun filled breakfast, pedicures and movie date with DA & HD
* a ladies luncheon in honor of ME with my Goddess friends
* Kareoke night with MP, AR and MM


not to mention all the lovely facebook messages with Birthday cheers, phone calls and cards!


If anyone understands or values numerology, I have entered my 3rd personal year:

Personal Year 3. . . .Social expansion & creative successes

This is a social, happy year, and it generally tends to exude bright and cheerful vibrations. This is a year when you will want to check up on old friends and broaden your social circle to include some new ones. Romance and love affairs may bloom. You are inclined to live life to its fullest now, even if you have to pay the consequences later on. You are likely to be more sociable and the bridle of responsibility will seem to be loosened a bit.

Last year was my personal 2 year, which was a Development, cooperation, and waiting .  I felt it entirely, as I did a lot of alone quiet time, research & reflection.  Once I entered 2011, I definitely felt a shift in my attitude.

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If anyone wants to find out their numerology, calculate your personal year using this formula:

 

First, reduce the month and day of your birth, your birthday, to a single digit.  For example, February 8th, that single digit would be 1 (2+8=10; 1+0=1). If your month and day total comes to 11 or 22, the master numbers, in this instance, reduce the number to 2 and 4, respectively.

Next, reduce the year for which you are making the calculation to a single digit. The year 2003 would become 5. Now, add the single digit representing your birthday to the single digit representing the year in question. Thus, 2003 is a a 6th personal year.

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I'm gaining clarity on issues and defining my wants and directions.  I am having an easier time letting go old beliefs now, which is GREAT!!!  It's all about "getting rid of the fat" as one of my old film teachers would say to me to get to the essence of the story.  Fascinating that something I experienced 13 years ago would apply now (in many ways).

Updates on dating resolutions
I went on my first date on Match & it went so well, that I have another date with him tonight!  The issue of sex has come up in my mind because we are going out to dinner and then back to his house for roaring fire, decadent chocolate cake and wine.

All of this sounds great, but it could also lead to the intimacy that might be too soon. Some of you may know that it has been a LONG time since I have been down this intimacy path & am ripe for the picking!  Intellectually, I know that this would be too soon because sex can "muddy" clear reasoning skills. 

Truthfully, I'm not thinking with my intellectual side & I'm admitting that I know what could happen.  I have decided to let the night play itself out & see what happens.

* after our first date, we have spoken on the phone 3 times (1 hr. long conversations) and have been playing a game of questions via texting. I feel that he is a good guy & feel safe.

Updates with exercising resolutions
Not official gym rat but I have been watching my diet and doing more everday movement (taking stairs, stretching, more fast walking).  I have to say getting into the dating scene is a motivator for sure & my happy hormones are helping me want to exercise.

Updates with professional resolutions
Another person has quit the Spa and I'm working strange odd shifts, plus with the snow I have been forced to sleep at the hotel which is giving me no reprieve from the job.  I haven't made as much of an effort as I would like, however, I'm realizing that I need to find the time to do it asap!  My computer is up and running thanks to RG and I am making monthly goals to accomplish (keeping it small is helpful)


I apologize that I was MIA for a while...try to keep it going more frequently from now on.
: )

Bring home the bacon (turkey) & fry it up in a pan (with a fatfree spray)...

Hello Happy Readers! 

I can now disclose my final Resolution #3 (I would like to achieve this within the next 1-5 months) 

To find gainful employment within a College/University setting, either in Connecticut or in Massachusetts, where I can use my all around fantastic skills, in an Administrative position.  I have always enjoyed the feeling of campus life and I would like a normal work schedule Mon-Fri 9ish-5ish and leave the Hospitality industry.  Also, the benefits of working within a University would be tuition reimbursement or reduction, so that I can pursue my Master's Degree in College Counseling.

This could also give a me an advantage, once I complete my Degree program. I would enjoy having potentially more Holidays & time off, being that I'm working around a college schedule.  Lastly, I have heard that the Health Benefits within an University level can be amazing (depending on the school).

Once again JC has aided me, with emailing me a fantastic resume/coverletter template.  I also have a great gift from DG to get interview clothes.  The next step is finding a way to get my hot-off-the-press resume into the hot little hands of HR.  (DG suggested I sign up with linkedin.) 

Blog Update - Match & SpiritualSingles
- I have winked at a bunch of people and tried not to be bummed that none of those people have winked/written back.  I'm realizing that it could a number of reasons & not to take it so personally.
- I have received a couple of winks & two emails.  Initially not interested, I'm keeping an open mind and have started email conversation. Registered for Speed dating - that will be on 2/9
-Signed up for spiritually singles (free site)...waiting for approval

BlogUpdate - Exercise
I slept in  : )
*to my defense, went to bed at 2am & feel like I'm fighting off a tiny cold. Need to readjust my sleep schedule, so I can do an AM exercise routine

Resolve to Evolve

Hello Happy Readers...

Now we come to Resolution #2:  This is year to get Healthy, Fit and Hot Hot Hot.  I suppose I could post my weight and measurements -to let my fitness flag fly -but I'm not quite ready for that.
Suffice it to say that, by the end of the year I intend to:
remove, shed, bid adieu to 50 pounds
do 10 push ups
have my blood sugar back normal (it's a little high)
be in a size 8 and to feel generally better (knee & back pain bye bye).

Now, here in lies the rub...I don't like to exercise. I have exercised in the past only to stop. It's a start, stop, start, stop cycle. 
I have a bit of a defeatest attitude of "Why bother, I'm only going to stop anyway" (said in the whiniest of tones)
My Gorgeous German friend, BF, told me that you need to stick with things and deal with the sucky part and success will follow.  It's a simple advice, in which I almost said "Duh" (probably in my head), but the truth is, as simple it is I don't do it. Duh!

It's 11:52pm on Saturday...I'm working at 12pm tomorrow, so I leave by 11:30am(ish). I could definitely begin my exercise program tomorrow morning at 8am or 9am and have plenty of time to get ready for work. 

It's a choice: sleep in or exercise.

(tap, tap, tap, tap - clock tick, tick ticking then time seemingly standing still as I ponder this thought)

I suppose sleeping in won't get me to where I want to be, huh?

Okay - small goals: This week beginning on Sunday to next Saturday, I will (clear throat):

*Prepare my w/c (workout clothes) the night before
*Go to bed 8 hours earlier, so I can be up in time to get coffee before my workout
*Either go to the gym or exercise by DVD
* I will have an exercise two/one program (Sun, Mon exercise, Tues off & Wed, Thur exercises, Frid. off & Sat exercise)

Any tips are appreciated.

Here's to me...a For-Lifer Exerciser!

Resolutions...or Revolutions!

Hello Happy Readers ~

I realize what a New Year's Eve cliche this is; however, this year I am determined to achieve certain goals.  Resolution number #1: I would like to find a man to love & truth be known, I would like to be engaged by New Year's Eve of 2011 "ringing" into 2012. 

I feel this is possible, because I'm a bit older now & the man I chose will also be older. Older connotes wiser & with this wisdom, we can sift through the nonsense & see life partner potential faster.  How to meet people in an area that only allows the 20-somethings to meet freely.  I'm not a fan of dating.  It's nerve-wracking & stressful.  Time spent in dizzying tizzy trying to look hot, dipped in hope & coated in disappointment.  I find that once you are in a relationship/marriage, the idea of dating sounds exciting, but that's probably because one has forgotten what I just stated above & remembers how fun it was in college. (ah, college...wasted on longterm boyfriends..sigh) 

Speaking to one of my Goddess Friends, JC convinced me that I need to practice the art of dating. To get comfortable. Not to meet "THE ONE" - just to have "FUN". Sounds great!  What better way to do this than to sign up for a online dating! Right?  I did sign up for Eharmony, Nerve & Plenty of Fish, in the past...hmmmm

(trippy music signaling a foggy memory of yester-year)

Eharmony took too long to communicate!  Being that you have to wait several days to weeks for responses or vice versa, feelings get hurt & then conversations end before the even get started. When I finally did connect, one man didn't look like his picture & when I asked him how old he was, he asked me what he age he listed. Forty year old man was really 55 (and looked 60, but claimed that he friends said he looked 30. Yeah, that's because they're your FRIENDS)

Another Eharmonian I met was seated when I arrived at the wine bar.  Only at the end of our date did I realize that Mr. 6'0 was only 5'4.  Did he think I wouldn't notice?
 
Then I checked out a site called Nerve because an old roommate, ER, said it was good. She tried them all , so I took her recommendation. It was less expensive/no bells & whistles, but I was game.  What I didn't know was that it was a site for s&m and hookups.  My "pretty in pink" innocent profile pic reacted no responses. 

I was sure to get some response after posting, only to log on to crickets...silence.  Wounded ego & licking my wounds, I decided to check out what the other woman on the site had posted.  Realized I should have been licking "something" else than my wounds, in the photos.  (I questioned ER as to her recommendation & she told me that she misunderstood me...that she never used it but heard about it from a friend...thanks a lot)

Lastly, was POF...got great response, but in the end thats all they wanted...MY End!  Cute man wanted to come over for a "carpet picnic".  Is that code?! 

After considering other sites, I have decided to use my hard earned credit on a 6 months experience with Match.com.  Site is up, but not generating (again) the response I'm looking for...time to call for reinforcements!