Hello Happy Readers ~
I realize what a New Year's Eve cliche this is; however, this year I am determined to achieve certain goals. Resolution number #1: I would like to find a man to love & truth be known, I would like to be engaged by New Year's Eve of 2011 "ringing" into 2012.
I feel this is possible, because I'm a bit older now & the man I chose will also be older. Older connotes wiser & with this wisdom, we can sift through the nonsense & see life partner potential faster. How to meet people in an area that only allows the 20-somethings to meet freely. I'm not a fan of dating. It's nerve-wracking & stressful. Time spent in dizzying tizzy trying to look hot, dipped in hope & coated in disappointment. I find that once you are in a relationship/marriage, the idea of dating sounds exciting, but that's probably because one has forgotten what I just stated above & remembers how fun it was in college. (ah, college...wasted on longterm boyfriends..sigh)
Speaking to one of my Goddess Friends, JC convinced me that I need to practice the art of dating. To get comfortable. Not to meet "THE ONE" - just to have "FUN". Sounds great! What better way to do this than to sign up for a online dating! Right? I did sign up for Eharmony, Nerve & Plenty of Fish, in the past...hmmmm
(trippy music signaling a foggy memory of yester-year)
Eharmony took too long to communicate! Being that you have to wait several days to weeks for responses or vice versa, feelings get hurt & then conversations end before the even get started. When I finally did connect, one man didn't look like his picture & when I asked him how old he was, he asked me what he age he listed. Forty year old man was really 55 (and looked 60, but claimed that he friends said he looked 30. Yeah, that's because they're your FRIENDS)
Another Eharmonian I met was seated when I arrived at the wine bar. Only at the end of our date did I realize that Mr. 6'0 was only 5'4. Did he think I wouldn't notice?
Then I checked out a site called Nerve because an old roommate, ER, said it was good. She tried them all , so I took her recommendation. It was less expensive/no bells & whistles, but I was game. What I didn't know was that it was a site for s&m and hookups. My "pretty in pink" innocent profile pic reacted no responses.
I was sure to get some response after posting, only to log on to crickets...silence. Wounded ego & licking my wounds, I decided to check out what the other woman on the site had posted. Realized I should have been licking "something" else than my wounds, in the photos. (I questioned ER as to her recommendation & she told me that she misunderstood me...that she never used it but heard about it from a friend...thanks a lot)
Lastly, was POF...got great response, but in the end thats all they wanted...MY End! Cute man wanted to come over for a "carpet picnic". Is that code?!
After considering other sites, I have decided to use my hard earned credit on a 6 months experience with Match.com. Site is up, but not generating (again) the response I'm looking for...time to call for reinforcements!
Darling...
ReplyDeleteEver since a gal friend showed me her online dating hopefuls nine years ago and I came face to screen with Mr. Pickle I have run the other way from online dating. (Since then many friends have hooked up there and are happy; the key is getting the same person in real life as you do on the screen. Um, yeah...delete icky memory now. Where are those Eternal Sunshine folks when you need them?)
I salute your courage. Yes. We are vulnerable! Yes. We seek connection! Yes.
Oh, may we all be dipped in hope!
Keep writing gal... bout time. smile
I've done match a number of times and now I'm on ok!cupid the free dating site from google. Match was more rejection than I could stomach. I found a lot of guys I wanted to talk to and none of them wanted to talk to me. I had to lower my standards and then lower them some more and then I found a few guys who I was willing to meet and who were willing to meet me. I went on 4 dates total I gave hours and hours of putting myself out there on that thing and winking and emailing and getting notta in response but I kept trying. So like I said I went on 4 1st dates and no second dates. Let me have a humbling moment here, not one guy wanted a second date with me! Ouch!!! ok!cupid I haven't really been on for long but there are a lot more choices it seems to me and although I'm distracted right now with some other love interest I already feel less rejected. Maybe I just chose better picture's, who knows...
ReplyDeleteHowever, my vote (if I get a vote) is that you do ok!cupid along with match to double your chances. It is free...
From an outside/objective perspective these online dating sites seem great. It's detailed, you get an idea of what the person is like & their interests prior to meeting them. It doesn't factor in that most aren't paying & can't communicate, but the site shows the member who's viewed them. So you think that wow - all these people have looked at my profile, but no one is contacting me. I have experienced (so far) what you have wrote, as well. It is humbling. I have signed up with a free site too...just waiting on the approval. The only thing with free is that ANYONE can be on it & if you are paying you are more likely looking for a genuine relationship. Free can be synanymous for Fling and that could be a good thing. Love your comments!
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